Clients are my best teachers. One lesson they are teaching me is that while clients  desperately want the experience of healing, they are often resistant to the  process of change.

There appears to be an attachment to their pain that is anchored at  such a deep psychological level that once their wish for healing starts coming true and the opportunity to move beyond pain is being actualized, they become fearful and abandon treatment.

They tell me of another doctor or practitioner who has a unique technology or treatment protocol that they think will be good for them and how they would want to try that out.  It appears that they would rather stay in a state of “projected” wellness than go through the process of truly changing and getting well.  In some ways it is an addiction to the hopefullness that someone can fix them and a “high” that they get in the week or two before actually meeting their new wellness practitioner that they prefer rather than completing on the journey of healing their pain or symptomology.

It reminds me of the lottery high. The chances of winning are infinitesimal, but the act of buying that ticket and having it in your wallet or purse anchors the dream of hopefullness and we make the investment in a ticket so that for the  days before the actual draw and the slight tinge of disappointment when we do not win, we can feel the dream of being the big winner.

Change is not an easy or instantaneous process. The ability to move through an illness or challenge requires courage and each stage of the process requires a willingness to renew ones sense of self.  Once you have allowed yourself to achieve rapport with a practitioner you trust, make the most out of your investment and allow the process of change to unfold.  You may find a wonderful new self waiting for you on the other side.